“Being humble means recognizing that we are not on earth to see how important we can become, but to see how much difference we can make in the lives of others” -Gordon B. Hinckely
Monday, February 27, 2012
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
On Boy Behavior
Human Needs Psychology (HNP)
The concept of 6 core needs, or six human needs as discussed by Anthony Robbins seeks to explain the primary human needs that drive behavior.
According to Anthony Robbins, "we are all driven by the need to fulfill six human needs basically. These 6 basic human needs are not just desires or wants, but profound needs which serve as the basis of every choice we make".
1. Certainty
The need for security, comfort and consistency.
2. Uncertainty
The need for variety and challenges.
3. Significance
The need to feel important, needed, wanted and worthy of love.
4. Love and Connection
The need for feeling connected with and loved by other human beings.
5. Growth
The need for constant development emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
6. Contribution
Giving beyond ourselves and giving to others.
The concept of 6 core needs, or six human needs as discussed by Anthony Robbins seeks to explain the primary human needs that drive behavior.
According to Anthony Robbins, "we are all driven by the need to fulfill six human needs basically. These 6 basic human needs are not just desires or wants, but profound needs which serve as the basis of every choice we make".
1. Certainty
The need for security, comfort and consistency.
2. Uncertainty
The need for variety and challenges.
3. Significance
The need to feel important, needed, wanted and worthy of love.
4. Love and Connection
The need for feeling connected with and loved by other human beings.
5. Growth
The need for constant development emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
6. Contribution
Giving beyond ourselves and giving to others.
Monday, February 20, 2012
On Being Present
| "Families need unstructured time when relationships can deepen and real parenting can take place. Take time to listen, to laugh, and to play together." |
| M. Russell Ballard |
On The Teen Years
"Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity."
Neal A. Maxwell
Neal A. Maxwell
On The Teen Years
| "There seems to be something inside each of us that resists being told or pushed or pulled. But if someone puts an arm around a young man and walks alongside him, he is likely to follow along..." |
| M. Russell Ballard |
On Cradles and Kitchens
“When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and in neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses? When the surf of the centuries has made the great pyramids so much sand, the everlasting family will still be standing, because it is a celestial institution, formed outside telestial time.”
― Neal A. Maxwell
― Neal A. Maxwell
On Extraordinary Work
“God's extraordinary work is most often done by ordinary people in the seeming obscurity of a home and family.”
― Neal A. Maxwell
― Neal A. Maxwell
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
On Encouragement
Sometimes I would overburden myself with complicated ruminations of how I should be encouraging my boys. This quote really sums up how simple our affirmations to them can be.
“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”
― Kathryn Stockett, The Help
“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”
― Kathryn Stockett, The Help
On Being Present
Heaven Is Mornings With Children
The morning was yet pink and cool when a little body showed up in my bed.
His head tucked into my stretched shoulder, his arms wrapped around my torso in a snug fit.
My early-rising son had outdone himself this morning. He was up even before the singing birds congregating in the fir tree just outside the window.
I kissed his furry head and the smooth spot between his earlobe and cheek. The gods blessed this boy with enviable skin, more like satin than human, a new compulsion to my fingertips.
His eyes closed and mouth opened. I watched him return back to the realm of rocket-infused dreams.
Here was the point of no return. A temporary place in the human existence tucked in between mother and father and away from worries. I wanted to tell my son's spirit to remember this moment, a safe spot anxiety-free.
This is where we want to be when our hearts are broken, our dreams are slashed and reality settles in. To return to the luxury life of mornings enfolded in your parents' arms and safety blankets when college exams beat at your will, taxes come due with no way to pay and the roof of your new little house begins to leak.
Those heavy moments are nothing like this.
Isn't heaven a replica of mornings burrowed between two relaxed parents?
And then my spirit says to me the same.
Remember this moment, a safe spot anxiety-free. It is the point you will want to return to when he gets too busy for you. Cursed with the speed of time, his mornings will soon be filled with the beeping of waking alarms and swift breakfasts on his way out into a world you can't share.
This is where you will want to return when he's tiptoeing past a curfew or moving out to save souls or, heaven forbid, falling in love with another woman. There is a finite time, the spirit says, when you occupy so much of his consciousness. This moment is for you.
And I decide: This is heaven.
The morning was yet pink and cool when a little body showed up in my bed.
His head tucked into my stretched shoulder, his arms wrapped around my torso in a snug fit.
My early-rising son had outdone himself this morning. He was up even before the singing birds congregating in the fir tree just outside the window.
I kissed his furry head and the smooth spot between his earlobe and cheek. The gods blessed this boy with enviable skin, more like satin than human, a new compulsion to my fingertips.
His eyes closed and mouth opened. I watched him return back to the realm of rocket-infused dreams.
Here was the point of no return. A temporary place in the human existence tucked in between mother and father and away from worries. I wanted to tell my son's spirit to remember this moment, a safe spot anxiety-free.
This is where we want to be when our hearts are broken, our dreams are slashed and reality settles in. To return to the luxury life of mornings enfolded in your parents' arms and safety blankets when college exams beat at your will, taxes come due with no way to pay and the roof of your new little house begins to leak.
Those heavy moments are nothing like this.
Isn't heaven a replica of mornings burrowed between two relaxed parents?
And then my spirit says to me the same.
Remember this moment, a safe spot anxiety-free. It is the point you will want to return to when he gets too busy for you. Cursed with the speed of time, his mornings will soon be filled with the beeping of waking alarms and swift breakfasts on his way out into a world you can't share.
This is where you will want to return when he's tiptoeing past a curfew or moving out to save souls or, heaven forbid, falling in love with another woman. There is a finite time, the spirit says, when you occupy so much of his consciousness. This moment is for you.
And I decide: This is heaven.
C. Jane Kendrick writes for cjanerun.com, is on facebook as C.Jane Kendrick and tweets as CJaneKendrick. She lives in Provo with her husband and three children.
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